"I know I had a good time because my SF Wing Women were with me.
No drama, just good karma.
I look forward to doing it again!" - -Yvette, SF Wing Woman

" It's great to read all of the positive responses to our outing on Sunday eve. You are all awesome! I had a great time dancing with you all especially since the energy of the group supported an environment where we felt very safe being ourselves (or at least I felt very safe making a fool of myself). Thanks to everyone who showed up in support of one another, let's keep it up. . ." - - Andi, SF Wing Woman

Who were those women having so much fun?
POST FROM CRAIGSLIST
Date: 2008-02-11, 3:34PM PST

Who were all those women dancing and having a great time last night at RESPECT?

They were all ages, all sizes, all cultures, all walks of life, and they looked like they were having a blast!

 

RE: Who were those women having so much fun? (SF Wing Women)
POST FROM CRAIGSLIST
Date: 2008-02-11, 3:44PM PST

The women having so much fun last night at RESPECT were the SF Wing Women! They did have a blast at RESPECT last night!

They post events that they want to go to, and whoever can make it, plan to meet each other so no one has to go alone!

 

RESPECT - SF Wing Women
POST FROM CRAIGSLIST
Date: 2008-02-12, 8:49AM PST

I wanted to thank all the women that dance with our group (SF Wing Women). We had the last booth on the left side of the room. You ladies were fun and had the most incredible vibe. Hope to hang out with you again in the near future.

I'm the Asian girl in the long sleeve yellow shirt with dark jeans.

Updated 2/18/08

Sunday night 2/8/08 a group of SF Wing Women went to RESPECT. DJ Page Hodel had invited us, and reserved a table for specifically for SF Wing Women, as well as giving us 50% off the door. There were over 15 of us, and we ALL had a blast!

Last night , a group of SF Wing Women went to the CWP singles dating event 2/11/08 at the Queer Center in SF, and they didn't have to do it alone! Another Group of SF Wing Women went to MECCA for Valentines, and our SF Wing Women Nanny couple planned a SF Wing Women picnic at Dolores Park on 2/16/08! Later that day, a group headed over to the Cafe for Delicious, 2/16/08.

SF Wing Women are posting events and making plans with each other to go out almost every day! Coming up... a great SF Wing Woman is beginning to plan a weekend camping trip for Women's Weekend, May 18-19th. (watch to RSVP)

Description

The new SF Wing Women Group is designed for queer women to connect with other andro, Butch Women, and femmes for that matter, who want to enjoy the many different events in the SF Bay Area, and prefer the company of other queer women to attend. This is a queer woman, female identified group. We are all ages, sizes, cultures and go from one end of the spectrum to the other. We are all queer women who want to connect and go out and enjoy what the Bay Area has to offer!

"It wasn't just going alone that was the problem;
it was what to do with myself once I got there!"

This is not a dating or hookup group, but rather a group of queer women who post events that they would like to go to in hope of finding a few others who are interested in going with, or meeting up to go together ( 2 + other people - not a date).

How it works

1. You have an idea. You want to go to a movie, a concert, a club, the museum, dinner, etc. and want some company. You don't want a date per se, you are just more comfortable going with someone, and actually hope to meet someone new there! You now become "The Organizer" and need to post a message for SF Wing Women to join you.
   
   
   
2. "The Organizer" posts the details of the event. Make sure you include
   • Who you are - photos are good as a way to know who to look for when you meet
   • What you want to do
   • Where the event is
   • Dates and times - give some notice so people can plan ahead
   • Cost
   • Meet up location
   • Meet up time
   • Transportation
   • Ask members to RSVP to your email address and/or phone number.
     
     
     
3. Hopefully two or more Wing Women respond, (2+ maybe more comfortable). Wing Women need to exchange info, cell phone, etc., in their reply and RSVP to confirm the where and when.
   
   
   
4. There are NO expectations of money, transportation, etc. All Wing Women need to make their own arrangements to meet up with "The Organizer". Wing Women expect to pay your own way, and be responsible for your own transportation, unless you set up something with "The Organizer" and make other arrangements.
   
   
   
5. If you make arrangements as "The Organizer" or RSVP as a Wing Woman, you commit to meet someone. If you don't show up, don't call to cancel, or let "The Organizer" know you're running late, you may be branded an unreliable Wing Woman!

   Irresponsible, inappropriate behavior is not ok.

   Use common sense and courtesy. Be nice. Be responsible! Treat other Wing Women how you deserve to be treated!
   

Definition

Wing Women is a term that defines two or more queer women who accompany each other when they go to an event or happening in the community, without the awkwardness of going alone.

Wing Women are expected to support each other at an event, rather than suffer through shyness and being alone.

Wing Women motivate each other to be social in an attempt to go out and enjoy the many events and happenings in and around the SF Bay Area, and if needed, practice approaching women. NOT like the term “wingmen”, which is more misogynistic and predatory based on targeting and approaching women.

Other responsibilities include confirm meeting times and places, pay your own way, organize your own transportation, be dependable on your commitment to show up, and not flake.